Thursday, May 8, 2008

BOOK RELEASE: It's All Your Fault!

IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT! 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others For Everything is hot off the press and now in our hands. It’s my new book loaded with practical methods for handling High Conflict People (HCPs) in any setting, including neighbor disputes, workplace conflicts, family battles, with strangers, etc. HCPs target those close to them and people in positions of authority, so in this book Bill focuses on what to do when YOU are the Target of Blame—and how to avoid (or prevent) being one for long. It is organized around 12 key Tips (5 Do’s and 7 Don’ts), which simplify large concepts into small, easy-to-remember phrases when you’re under the stress of a high conflict dispute.

This is the book for the general public, so you can give it to anyone. I have been working on it for the past three years (or so), so it includes a lot of my latest thinking and reading about the brain, personality development, interesting cases, and the importance of Negative Advocates on a community’s culture of conflict. It also has (of course) a cartoon for each chapter, from Peanuts, Dilbert, and The New Yorker.

The book goes beyond the information in my previous books, which focused primarily on HCPs in legal settings. I explain the four most common High Conflict Personalities, with an emphasis on understanding their High Conflict Thinking—and why it is so contagious. Once again, I give numerous examples—some real, some fictional—to demonstrate the very predictable dynamics of high conflict disputes.

High Conflict People seem to be increasing in today’s conflicts worldwide. As I say: “The issue’s not the issue; the High Conflict Personality is the issue.” So prepare yourself by reading IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT! Get it online at

Chapters Include:

Part I: Understanding High Conflict People
Tip #1: Don’t Take Their Personal Attacks Personally
Tip #2: Don’t Give Them Negative Feedback
Tip #3: Don’t Bend Boundaries With Borderlines
Tip #4: Don’t Diss the Narcissists
Tip #5: Don’t Get Hooked by Histrionics
Tip #6: Don’t Get Conned by Antisocials
Tip #7: Don’t Be a Negative Advocate

Part II: Managing High Conflict People
Tip #8: Connect Using Your E.A.R.
Tip #9: Analyze Your Realistic Options
Tip #10: Respond Quickly to Misinformation
Tip #11: Set Limits on Misbehavior
Tip #12: Choose Your Battles


Anonymous said...

Congrats on your new book release!

catherine todd said...

Where do we get your books? They sound like what I have needed, and have been wondering about, for many, many years. In fact, let's make that my WHOLE LIFE! Thanks so much for this blog. "Live Saving" in so many ways.

catherine todd said...

Please respond directly for book into to my email Thanks.